Daughter-in-law being as Daugther: Negation in acceptance

Every girl especially in places like India has been taught that your in-law’s house is your real one. But do their in-laws allow their own house to be their home for girls? We are living in developed India now, where the state of mentality has been appreciably modernized, like hardly people believe in the dowry system now, considered their daughter-in-law as their own daughter, in-laws stand out more for their daughter-in-law more than their son sometimes, and many more. But there’s also subsists the harsh reality today, not everyone is that developed whether they looked from their appearances or outfits but having those creepy and narrow thoughts towards their daughter-in-law. Some are twisted when it comes to the comparison between their daughter and daughter-in-law.

Their daughter is allowed and independent to take decisions or to work outside, allowed to wear whatever she wants, can talk whoever she wants, but on another side, their daughter-in-law should know the boundaries, should take permission from husband or in-laws even if she wants to go out, she is supposed to be a homemaker so have to be in bars which are invisible totally, but do exist, and if by any mistake that boundary breaks, then the tag of the home breaker has been patched straight to her character or evermore.

Stop this

The girls have been taught that your in-laws will be your second parents, you will get more love and acceptance than ever, but what if she doesn’t even treat as a person with all rights or been beaten like an animal? During all the suffering, nobody thinks of her, or of her condition, because they don’t think it through, if a girl leaves their in-law’s house, it will become a subject of their shame. Girls have been advised to suffer like,” Don’t bother, its a part of life. Give some time to them, everything will come on a track soon, You’re brave and homemaker, not a big deal if you bear a bit!”. And by listening to this, some attempts to suicide, some are murdered by their in-laws or some are forced to die or some just think it better to leave that house. All the cases of domestic violence are seen leaving every 20 houses in the street. 

During these circumstances, parents are requested to take a vital and certain step instead of giving unnecessary advice to their daughters. They should report complain to the nearby police place or take their daughter back from those cold-blooded creatures. Many helpline are there if you seek help when nobody is helping you. Always remember to have faith and confidence in you, that will help you to bring the change because anyone can give you words but rare can offer a hand. Change comes within ourselves, so make the change and be the change.

Domestic violence: Silent suffering of male victims

While discussing domestic violence, we always reflect a woman as a victim and a man as a convict, but is the situation exactly like this? Whether we say its a new India, but still somewhere male reign society does exist, and talking like male dominance where every NGO workers are sustainable and working for women empowerment, is the offense is something is hard to digest and believe, but the truth is 14% of the male are facing this. According to the reported cases, Domestic violence against men is rising day by day and can turn to a serious threat to the sufferer.

What do domestic violence means and laws against it?

Domestic violence is the actions taken violently by the spouse or partner in an intimate relationship such as marriages or cohabitation (live in), this can take place in between heterosexual or same-sex marriages or relationships. It often occurs during the situation where an abuser believes their type of abuse won’t get into the acknowledgment or it is acceptable towards their partner which might affect your surrounding, relations or can put a major effect on your children. The seriousness of this issue is still not understood by the government, hence new protection movements have been created. The general acumen is that men cannot be sufferers of violence.

In recent years where we work more for women’s rights, the more cases of beating or harassing men by their wives or partner have come in front. We aren’t sympathetic to the victim men, as per the social perception, men are stronger and can never be beaten or even harassed by their wives but there are reported cases are shown that scenarios may have diverse actions, and men keep hiding them because if somehow revealed, nothing but they’ll turn to be the character of jokes, waves of laughter and mockery.

Types of abuses they might get suffer from:

Here’s the question arises, why can’t men leave abusive relationships? Despite talking about gender, leaving a relationship, when especially it an abusive and disturbing, it’s not that easy. There would have reasons shown by your family or friends to not to end the commitment because of:

Believes connected to your togetherness: that what people will say that you’ve not been able to handle a woman, or you need to save your marriage or relationship for the sake of others connected to it.

Denial on giving up: Similar to female victims, denying on accepting the problem with their relationship which only lengthen the space of abuse. Men also believe that they will change their partner so what if they’ll beat you up, men believe in changing their partner with their love sometimes caught up into isolated advice.

Lacking in resources and shreds of evidence: Many men believed that they’ll find difficulty being believed by the authorities because Indian men are being slapped with a dowry harassment case. It is not only difficult to prove them as sufferers and to shake off the social stigma that comes with being charged with such an act, but also cases tend to be in the woman’s favor.

Domestic violence against men is not the matter of laughter, but the deadliest issues taking place even in our surrounding, but not in our acknowledgment, if you find anything going on around you, instead of ignoring the seriousness of the issue, you should take pictures as evidence and directly report to the authorities. Let’s hope legislation should be made against it to turn this drift.