When you see your ex with someone else, how does it feels?

How long has it ever been since you remembered your ex? Especially when you have moved on with other new relationships with new experiences, more love, better understandings, and a better trust foundation. But how does it feel when looking back to the time you spent with your ex who has or you promised the world?

And So does these Social media platforms do their part in it with all of their love stuff and quotes, Hahaha..!!! Half of the work is done by those who follow their exes on social media to keep posted on their activities. Although one part of you would have moved on, another part of you may be clinging to the past.

You might have even begun dating someone who is a better match for you. Who has done everything you wished for when you chose to be apart. You might have felt that you have conquered your fear of hurting, thinking that person is impossible to continue with. With whom I’m right now is the one. But, why then do you feel heartbroken yet again when you see your ex with someone else?

Because they’re your first love?

Even if your first love isn’t the love of your life, it’s difficult to forget what you shared with them. Because you have shared every aspect of your life, and the thought has its own space in your mind that “No one can handle you better than them, no matter what!”. They may have promised you everything, made you feel safe and special. But, they’re not with you and doing good in their life, no time demands from you.

Does Your Ego hurt?

Seeing your ex with someone else, might only be the reason that you feel hurt? The reason can also be your lingered ego that they have found someone better than you. Ego hurting plays an immense role in hatred generated after the duration of separation.

Accept it or not, it gives you comfort when you hear that they cannot find better than you. But, what if they do? Being human, it’s in our nature to get interrogated by our questionnaire comparing with the new. That can sometimes lead to self-doubt, but the thing you need to understand is it’s not you, it’s just a matter of time before and situation bursts.

You compare your current relationship

When the above situation strikes, there are more possible chances that you’re going to stamp your old bruises somewhere in your current relationship. And then, you may make things worst even if you don’t want this to happen.

Why does one want a relationship? To be happy, loved, trusted, to rely on, to throw tantrums, to fight, to find support, to call someone yours, to share everything. Then why do we allow the past to affect the present, it’s only we who grant the situation with the allowance token, whether we want the past to affect our present or not.

Realization of a Failure

When you devote time and energy to trying to make a relationship work, it can make you come across as a complete failure when it doesn’t. Seeing your ex with someone makes you feel usual and easy to forget why you guys are broke, and ready to take all the pseudo blames on yourself. Always remember, whatever happens to you, happens for good. It’s better to work on yourself and go ahead with your life.

Do you still have space for them? Not healed yet?

In certain scenarios, getting saddened by seeing your ex with someone else may reflect that you need a little more time to heal completely. Everyone handles a breakup differently and moves on in their own time. It is a necessity of life to take some time to wipe out anxious feelings for your ex and your previous relationship to fully recover and move forward with your current one.

Remembering special moments

Recalling the special moment spent with them makes us feel down. And even the idea of them experiencing the moments, making love, or creating new memories, haunts you even more. It’s genuine to imagine them having the same bond with someone else now may be hard, but true, so accepts the fact and step ahead.

Cool, It’s normal! you will recover.

Relax! It might be a little confusing seeing your ex with someone else or having mixed feelings, especially when you’ve moved on, and started your new journey. But, it’s a genuine or normal reaction for a normal person. One should only need to understand the facts and differentiated practically present to past, and you can make your life easy to step ahead. Stay Strong! 😊

Break Up To Mend Up!!

Hello!! I’m back again, back with all the positives, yet with slight disappointment, but I’ll mend it up soon though. We all make fun of the person who’ll share their experience they’d gone after the break-up. Some of us laugh or gave their own headed suggestions to the one who’s trying to deal with this. I’d heard myself the phrases people said to me when I’d this, like:

“ Bro! There’s much more to do except rolling out your tears on that crepe.”

“You’re lucky that you’d come out of this shit soon”

“There’s more things, apart from your love life and griefs, look out your family”

“HAHAHA!! Bro, Where are you stuck at, dive-in some leisure, love is all shit”

And many more…. 

But what the truth is, we all know. If we’d dreams, emotions, and senses connected to the person,  and when this suddenly ends, It hurts, RIGHT??

Most of you would call this crap for sure, I really don’t care to be honest, but to those who can relate, will surely know what I really wanna conveys through this.

Yes, I agree career, families and friend are important because they won’t leave you by throwing on any shitty reason, but make you feel warm, warmth of love and care. For those, who is looking for an emotional support after this painful heartbreak, I would suggest you to speak your soul out to your most trusted friend or family member. The next question would be,

What if a person doesn’t have someone to talk after their breakup?

Talking to self is better than anything else, but if still you don’t have anyone to talk, take a journal, and write every bit of your heart says, trust me it won’t disappoint you, and truly what I’m performing these days. You would rather think this as non-sense, but this is not even that bad, lol! And one more thing, It is really very important to speak out everything to your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, want they had done wrong, what this made you suffer through, roar out everything, this will help you to put off the baggage, halted on your shoulders for very long probably.

Talking to self is better than anything else, but if still you don’t have anyone to talk, take a journal, and write every bit of your heart says, trust me it won’t disappoint you, and truly what I’m performing these days. You would rather think this as non-sense, but this is not even that bad, lol! And one more thing, It is really very important to speak out everything to your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, want they had done wrong, what this made you suffer through, roar out everything, this will help you to put off the baggage, halted on your shoulders for very long probably.

Lessons from past relationships: why do they fail?

Relationships do not fail, we fail them. Life is all about learning things, to come to the matter of togetherness. Setbacks and mistakes are part of life and way to success. We nowadays complain that love does not exist in today’s era, but it takes a special and only one person to fail us on this thought. But what if we fail in this too, what lessons we should learn from our failed relationships so that we do not make those mistakes further:

Trust but not blindly:

Trust is a way for every successful relationship until unless it is blind. You have seen many in relationships that one got betrayed because of their blind trust in their partner. One should keep a check on a random basis on their partner not to peep into their devices but to know with whom they are interacting. There is nothing wrong with that instead you will get to know what’s going in their life as we are more active on our social networks and devices.

Ask them what’s going in their life:

You should ask your partner if is everything going right? You should ask them about their life if they are facing any trouble, and if it is beautiful then how to make it more appreciable because a relationship is not only about your love life connected with your partner but also about sharing the happiness and problems.

Never impose your decisions

Being in a relationship, You always want our partner to do things which you like, and its embracing when they do that, but expecting this from them to leave all their thoughts and habits be get molded like you want them to be is right? Always respect their thoughts and decisions, their likings and way of living life, best understanding comes from here only.

Time and Communication is a key

No matter how busy you’re, if you cannot take out time from your schedule, if you can stay without hearing from your partner or similar in the case of your partner then its a wake-up call, priority of the person has been changed whether they claim it loud. If you’re facing the issues then sit back and communicate what’s lacking in between, how to resolve the situation. There’s nothing in a world that cannot be met with teamwork.

Never let the spark fades away:

You do numerous things to impress and to have that person in your life because you’re so convinced with their personality and nature, but what comes it to not seeing it into your relationship anymore. Why do you let the fire down between you both? Never stop putting efforts to make your partner special whether its been a decade passes of togetherness. If you’ll start taking efforts, everything will then come on the track, always remember small things brings great happiness. 

Be true to your partner:

Hiding things is similar to the deception. A relationship is a bond of trust and love, but when you start keeping things secret, it is the first step of betrayal. If you’ll be true to your partner always, share everything with them that you think they should know, leads to a happy and successful relationship is one of a kind.

Always respect your partner’s personal space:

If you’re in this world then you may have friends also, this also may imply on your partner, you cannot resist your partner not to talk to their friends and knowns just because you do not feel it right. You should respect the personal space of yours as well as your partners, there’s nothing to feel unsecured, if your partner or you still feel this, then let your partner introduce to your friends and chill together, this may help you out to build up trust again. 

Never let you partner feel unwanted or insecure:

Being in a relationship, if you or your partner still feels unwanted which hurts the most, then talk about what they feel about them now and also ask if they still want them? If they’re confused to be together, then listen to your intuition and leave instead of getting into the blame-game. And if they still want you then work on how to make this more beautiful.