Break Up To Mend Up!!

Hello!! I’m back again, back with all the positives, yet with slight disappointment, but I’ll mend it up soon though. We all make fun of the person who’ll share their experience they’d gone after the break-up. Some of us laugh or gave their own headed suggestions to the one who’s trying to deal with this. I’d heard myself the phrases people said to me when I’d this, like:

“ Bro! There’s much more to do except rolling out your tears on that crepe.”

“You’re lucky that you’d come out of this shit soon”

“There’s more things, apart from your love life and griefs, look out your family”

“HAHAHA!! Bro, Where are you stuck at, dive-in some leisure, love is all shit”

And many more…. 

But what the truth is, we all know. If we’d dreams, emotions, and senses connected to the person,  and when this suddenly ends, It hurts, RIGHT??

Most of you would call this crap for sure, I really don’t care to be honest, but to those who can relate, will surely know what I really wanna conveys through this.

Yes, I agree career, families and friend are important because they won’t leave you by throwing on any shitty reason, but make you feel warm, warmth of love and care. For those, who is looking for an emotional support after this painful heartbreak, I would suggest you to speak your soul out to your most trusted friend or family member. The next question would be,

What if a person doesn’t have someone to talk after their breakup?

Talking to self is better than anything else, but if still you don’t have anyone to talk, take a journal, and write every bit of your heart says, trust me it won’t disappoint you, and truly what I’m performing these days. You would rather think this as non-sense, but this is not even that bad, lol! And one more thing, It is really very important to speak out everything to your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, want they had done wrong, what this made you suffer through, roar out everything, this will help you to put off the baggage, halted on your shoulders for very long probably.

Talking to self is better than anything else, but if still you don’t have anyone to talk, take a journal, and write every bit of your heart says, trust me it won’t disappoint you, and truly what I’m performing these days. You would rather think this as non-sense, but this is not even that bad, lol! And one more thing, It is really very important to speak out everything to your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, want they had done wrong, what this made you suffer through, roar out everything, this will help you to put off the baggage, halted on your shoulders for very long probably.

Young Adults, How they’re more entertaining with living alone?

More we’re becoming self-dependent, more we’re opting for modern life, and more we’re preferring living alone today, especially by young adults. According to statistics gathered by several research centers, young adults from around the world are focusing more on their careers and businesses, spend more time flirting on dating apps and prefer living solo instead of getting married, having children and forming a settled family.

Rather than compensating their preferences by tying the knot, they want to become financially strong and independent, young people want to secure their future and complete their academics which are taking more than usual time and delaying the time more and more. Young people especially in the age of 24+ to their last 40’s, preferring living solo and do not want to get bothered with other’s hindrances.

Entertaining solitude

LIving in solo doesn’t define one is not liking to be in social gatherings, but they enjoy their own space and time, they connect to people, party, or hang out with them and come to their nest another day. 

Not everyone chooses their Solo life

Everyone is just different from one another, so do as their preferences. Not everyone wishes to spend their life without having a partner. Choosing a single life could depend on one’s life situation what they’ve faced or what they think about others, but there are people too who come into the relationship, left their solo life because they think that life can be shared with them peacefully and beautifully.

Solo life is a definition of freedom

Living alone is another name of freedom in its own, young people choose to remain solo or if marry, then without any restriction or judgment. Living a solo life is simply becoming a preference for a growing soul and this should be celebrated rather than criticizing, as it really could give people more options like how they want to lead in life. In a future where neither being married or single is not regarded as negative.

We should learn to live on our own for sure because we know we have to leave alone if we’d have come alone. I also myself prefer a single solo life, having no stress, we need not impress anyone, we need not entertain an other’s opinion or have to take anyone’s shit, but at the having your partner by your side is not a that bad idea, but not now for sure, Maybe in my 30’s or later. Yes, this Idea of living alone is totally worthless according to our elders, and they’re right to somewhere, but living alone is a peaceful definition on its own.

What’s running inside…..

Did you ever feel any attraction towards your relative who’s not actually your relative, but your parent made them to you? Funny right? I believe wherever we travel, whomever we meet could be a reason behind it, or a story it’s going to be starting with them. No matter what the current status of the relative then, if that person is married, engaged, single, rich, poor, etc. Not only the relative, but could be another one too. You guys might judge me on my first sentence, but the truth is you can’t resist our attraction towards the person who seems nice to you. And then that attraction could be of different types, totally depends on you like how you want it to proceed with. Some take limitations, same goes with a close both, the attraction could be of type like good friends after, could be a close bond between you two, or just a casual attraction like eye-warmer, LOL!!

Being single and young, our types of interest are kept on changing, like mood swings. We aren’t capable of figuring out this mixed feeling, and simply one started talking to us, we gave it a name of love to this attraction phase, might result in hurting others later.

I’ll suggest you test your bond or piece of bond you are sharing if you’re in a relationship or about to be in a relationship before making it a commitment. Oh… I was talking about attraction towards your relative, who seems actually not your relative but your parent made them to you, right? In that case, I prefer you to leave the thought if you’re planning something and to are from the Hindu community. If you don’t want to get indulge in “ Log kya kahenge”, just simply leave it. 

There are billions of thoughts running in my head right now, like why don’t we’re able to choose our partner besides all the bars, Bars?? Like caste, religion, color, age, financial status, body type, etc. in Hindu society, why we always have to satisfy our elder’s ego and expectation before taking any step in choosing our partner? Why don’t we’re permitted to choose the life of how we want to spend, especially the girls?  Why boys are always advised to choose a secure and handsome packaged job or business as they have to support their family in the future? Why women are still thought of as non-living decoration material, they’re not allowed to express what they don’t like and keep on treated as a toy? ( these are still the thinking of some communities in India). Why men are stuffed with the burden of thoughts they’re going to take further in the future since childhood that they had to leave their dream of what they want to be. Why men have to be more financially strong than his wife or girlfriend if they’re looking for their future together, why can’t they grow together?

You all me in the comments please, what you all think? Towards anything, whether it’s love, attraction, caste, religion, our own decisions….

Struggling with your own fluctuating emotions? How I’m dealing with mine right now? Is it that easy?……….

These baffled emotions are very common and often to people when they step into mid of their teens or 20’s. We mostly endure being confused about whether this confusion is about love, friendship, college, business, etc. almost about everything. I’m one of them, I won’t say like I’m an always happy-go kinda person. But like most of us, I too got failed in finding my “The only one”, Sounds silly? Yeah of course it does, duhhh… !!

But Honestly not regretting it :)…

Ya, I admit that become sad while scrolling on over one of the social media handle’s feed, when I see couples wandering the world while wrapping hands to one another, Haha….. I know it’s foolish, and also whatever we’re seeing online is not actually real, but it’s all my mood swings, what I thought in just a second after. Hehe…. I have always been a puffed child since my childhood, I called it “my family’s love is shown by my body”, I love food, I really do, But while growing up, seeing, yes looks really do matter, and how much I’m trying hard to lose fat but my obsession for trying new food, is just not letting me go, was the time I felt its the time to get back on track now. Being always dumped by foolish reasons for not loving back was certainly uncountable.

Is this Post for seeking any sympathy?? It’s a BIG NO NO….

I love myself, and also understand the concept of mindful eating, loving weight lifting now, started jogging everyday, feeling fitter and motivated than ever before…

Not only by friends and outsiders, but even my own family members also used to make me remember almost all the time, like how fat I’m, Uhh, the struggle is really very real “Because kehte hain na, patli ho jaao nahi toh shaadi nahi hogi, ya acha pati nhi milega!!

Like each and every phrase, the phase of a woman’s life has been started from finding a decent and ideal husband. Why a woman can’t think of settling on her feet without thinking of getting married and having her own separate family? Why is a woman not considered as part of her own family anymore where she born, when her 20’s begins? I completely understand the need of having a partner at a certain age when you can grow together, and starts a new life? But what If one fails in finding one, whether it’s any of the reason, their pattern of thinking and understanding, one’s outer looks, one’s religion or caste differences, one’s, etc. Isn’t a woman alone capable of taking her career to heights?

I’m really not able to get fit into this society where “Log kya sochenge” is still matters! Lol…
I think sometimes whether people are so idle to talk shit about others without thinking about their own? Ya, I too judge people sometimes, but also besides knowing that it’s not my business to do anything with!!

How I’m keeping myself motivated to move on and focus?

I usually do nothing but keeping myself busy, whether with work or thinking about my blogging skills to improve in more and also with household stuff sometimes. Times come in between while jogging or my walks, where my thinking starts. I’m a really very big fan of Mr. Neelesh Mishra, a fan of his writings actually, I used to listen to them almost on daily basis. They are very soothing and takes you into your own imaginary world, where sometimes you will learn to deal with emotions or sometimes understand the phases life shows us.

Things I’ve learned so far is, Everyone has their own sets of problems, No one can compare their lives to other, everyone has their own shit to deal with, and living in their own visionary world. Sharing my thoughts with you has no intention behind but to tell to y’all that it’s all indoors us, the complications and perplexes running within, are all common. Share them to only those whom you think they’re only trustworthy, or better to not share instead of becoming a subject of anyone’s laughter. 

The tide will always be waving within till you know how to deal with! Don’t let the tide be the tornado! Take Care!

Inner Serenity: How to honor yourself eternally with this reward!!

What is Inner serenity?

Inner Serenity or Peace refers to the soothing or peaceful state of mind instead of blubbering or hustling composition. Serenity or calmness is both the description of a well-place mind from the distorted position and towards the enlightenment of the sub-conscious mind.

But it is not simple as talking about it casually, sitting for a while, and boom, here you are. Instead of sitting for like hours, it demands regular practice for just from 10 minutes at the start till as long as you’re holding to it. Despite, we also complain that we’re facing difficulties while practicing it, because of the mental stressors that are continuously revolving even if we’re are not in that region.

Going through this, many of the therapies and practices came out in the pattern which claims to bring your baffled inner conscious to serenity states like meditation and mindfulness, guided yoga practices, listening to music, etc.

How I’m dealing with my anxious mind and struggling in finding inner peace?

Being a commoner, I’m too facing this similar issue, the issue of not getting the considered mind, the issue of overthinking, and anxiety even in the single ant-sized problem. But since I’ve been practicing meditation and yoga, it feels much lighter than before. Instead of overthinking, I’ve started finding out the ways on how can I resolve it. Sometimes I take suggestions from my parents, sometimes from my trusted ones, sometimes from my sister, or sometimes just sitting alone and understanding the situation on my own.

More ways, I’ve tried so far? 

Besides I’m not patient, that’s only the reason maybe I’m still struggling to find my inner solace. The ways I’ve been practicing to keep my mind and body fit are:

  • Meditation
  • Exercising and stretching
  • Guided Yoga
  • Weightlifting
  • Jogging/running
  • Maintaining Journal
  • Listening to Bhagwat Geeta
  • Listening to motivational speakers (like Sadhguru)

But what I’ve learned is “It’s all in the mind, Everything is a mind game, If you decide to be determined to something, and nothing can distract you from achieving it, then you will reach to your goal. You might find the obstacles which will be trying to block your way, but then your determination power will tunely help you out to cross it and reach next to your goal”.

I tried waking up at 4.30 am, and starting up with jogging, also inspired by one of my friend, following it to exercising and yoga practice, and weight lifting on alternate days. Following that, I start my day with the meditation, and after that first meal of the day. And trying to better my routine in a more improvised manner, and believe me, this helps me a lot.

At last, I will suggest you all make your own suitable plan which you think you can follow and add it to your regular days. The only plan which can help you is your own only. Being settled at this young age, I would suggest you get up, leave your bed and take out the productive soul who’s holding right there in yourself. Take care!