What people will say if a girl….

We have heard many times since childhood what people will say? Whether this is about anything, about bragging things, their hypocritical social or religious values, etc. But from the very first it starts from our beloved homes “What people will say if a girl (or woman of the house) will…?” The kind of restrictions stated straight to girls or women which has to be obeyed by them based on society’s hypothetical beliefs are:

If want to wear whatever she wants:

Does the length of the dress of a woman or a girl describe her character? The answer is absolute ‘No’. Respect for women must independent of the types of clothes she’s wearing.

If she put on or lose the weight:

The phrases like ‘loose weight, unless no one will marry you’, ‘you’re so skinny, put on some skin because you won’t be able to handle pregnancy after marriage’, etc. Why everything is connected to their marriages and not what they want to be.

If she steps out after 11 pm :

If a girl or a woman is out even it is 11 pm, then some of us making misinterpretation towards her by calling characterless, thinking she must be hanging around with someone else or she’s out of the values, but no one thinks she’s might be out because of her work.

If she’s 30 and still doesn’t want to get married:

Being Indian, no matter how good you are at your work, everyone will start suggesting you or your family find a good house for her just when she enters her 24. And eventually, she’s 30 and still single, doesn’t want to get married yet because you want to focus on your career, then “What people will say that you’re not married yet, what you will do of this money if you don’t have a family?”

If she put on red dark lipstick:

‘She’s running out of the hands for sure, just look at her dark makeup!’. Yet another statement is given according to the kind of make-up she is wearing whether if she’s traditional saree. This directly stares people want a thing to raise it into an issue.

If she wants to raise your voice against the crime:

‘Keep shut and silent! You’re girl( or woman), you should not be indulged in any kind of protests or raise your voice because it doesn’t look nice if a girl does that, and going forward, you also have to get married or you have a family, you just take care of your house. ’

If she wants to be a single parent:

‘ What people will say if you raise your child as a single parent?’, ‘You cannot raise your child on your own, you need a man, you’re not advised to get divorced, think about your child’, One question raises here why can’t a woman do things by her own if she can give birth by bearing all the pain alone?

If she wants to sit the way she likes:

‘It doesn’t look nice if you sit by opening your legs wide, sit like a girl (or a woman)’, ‘ What people will say, look she sits like a boy (or man), don’t know if she has given the values or not’. Does the sitting posture define the type and the culture in which we brought up?

It’s high time to the mindset changes, a girl or a woman’s respect should not be connected to attire or professional she chooses for herself. High times for girls to confront the obstacles controlling them to spread their wings and fly.

Domestic violence: Silent suffering of male victims

While discussing domestic violence, we always reflect a woman as a victim and a man as a convict, but is the situation exactly like this? Whether we say its a new India, but still somewhere male reign society does exist, and talking like male dominance where every NGO workers are sustainable and working for women empowerment, is the offense is something is hard to digest and believe, but the truth is 14% of the male are facing this. According to the reported cases, Domestic violence against men is rising day by day and can turn to a serious threat to the sufferer.

What do domestic violence means and laws against it?

Domestic violence is the actions taken violently by the spouse or partner in an intimate relationship such as marriages or cohabitation (live in), this can take place in between heterosexual or same-sex marriages or relationships. It often occurs during the situation where an abuser believes their type of abuse won’t get into the acknowledgment or it is acceptable towards their partner which might affect your surrounding, relations or can put a major effect on your children. The seriousness of this issue is still not understood by the government, hence new protection movements have been created. The general acumen is that men cannot be sufferers of violence.

In recent years where we work more for women’s rights, the more cases of beating or harassing men by their wives or partner have come in front. We aren’t sympathetic to the victim men, as per the social perception, men are stronger and can never be beaten or even harassed by their wives but there are reported cases are shown that scenarios may have diverse actions, and men keep hiding them because if somehow revealed, nothing but they’ll turn to be the character of jokes, waves of laughter and mockery.

Types of abuses they might get suffer from:

Here’s the question arises, why can’t men leave abusive relationships? Despite talking about gender, leaving a relationship, when especially it an abusive and disturbing, it’s not that easy. There would have reasons shown by your family or friends to not to end the commitment because of:

Believes connected to your togetherness: that what people will say that you’ve not been able to handle a woman, or you need to save your marriage or relationship for the sake of others connected to it.

Denial on giving up: Similar to female victims, denying on accepting the problem with their relationship which only lengthen the space of abuse. Men also believe that they will change their partner so what if they’ll beat you up, men believe in changing their partner with their love sometimes caught up into isolated advice.

Lacking in resources and shreds of evidence: Many men believed that they’ll find difficulty being believed by the authorities because Indian men are being slapped with a dowry harassment case. It is not only difficult to prove them as sufferers and to shake off the social stigma that comes with being charged with such an act, but also cases tend to be in the woman’s favor.

Domestic violence against men is not the matter of laughter, but the deadliest issues taking place even in our surrounding, but not in our acknowledgment, if you find anything going on around you, instead of ignoring the seriousness of the issue, you should take pictures as evidence and directly report to the authorities. Let’s hope legislation should be made against it to turn this drift.

LGBT v’s Society: Are the differences still going in between these two?

One question you should ask from yourself first, are you open to take the acceptance to the LGBT community without any discrimination? Well, the answer might be easy, but harder in implementing that. Yes, we’re still not that much more open to ourselves or ready to make changes around us when is question adding something new to it. In a literal, there’s nothing new in that, but the people are now strong enough to identify and to take steps forward to this.

What do LGBTQ stands for?
L= Lesbian
G= Gay
B= Bisexual
T= Transgender
Q= Queer

And many more terms are now in the slangs and titles like pansexual, pangender, homo, ally, asexual, etc. Even after the Section 377, people are still suffering from negation and discrimination, and by mistake, if someone what’s to share with their family the changes that they are feeling in their body, they are advised to stay shut, because if they do so, then ” what society will say? What people will say?” strikes directly. It takes huge guts to accept the fact and get supported by their families to their truth. There’s nothing to be ashamed of.

Same-sex marriages

From the article on Brut India, The couple came up in front and shared their story of what they had to face to come across here, while both were adults and wanted to stay together but same-sex love is illegal here.
Same-sex marriages are still not legally recognized in India and are entertained with very limited rights as a domestic partnership. Not only in India but there are still the countries that do not entertain the same-sex or LGBT community partnership as in law. Everyone has an independent right to choose their partner but marriage is legislated at the federal level.

Fight for the Rights of Transgender community

We all have believed that getting blessings from Hijras(Eunuch) on every auspicious occasion is like a boon, but there are also us who treat them like they from another planet. Yes, hard to accept but still true, by giving them name as third-gender, we even started treating them like one. They are human like us, their blood and skin have the same color as us. But one stage of showing humanity, they have proved that they have more sentiments and intelligence than us. If a child shares the changes felt in his body then either they’ll be advised to keep shut or will be thrown out from the house. But this is not only the scenario, but there are also the people who support their child and educate them. There are many transgender who’ve adopted the orphans and provided them education, but then the other troubled waited for their child to face, insulting them as a child of transgender and boycotting them from every gathering.

There’s a lot more to write, the only question arises that if we’re educating our children and teaching them how to behave with others, whether it’s an animal, human, or anything will make a difference within the world? As I said, changes come within ourselves, we should have a write to do anything if it is correct and not hurting others sensibilities, we should have a right to choose our partner or right to equalities. No one should be treated as if their lives do not breathe!

Liberated Youth Of India, Or Still A Tale?

While many of us believe that we live in a new India, where everyone is liberated to marry whom they want to, across the caste bars, post anything over the social media, liberated to everything to do over the board but is this still a truth? India is a vast country that depicts various cultures, religions, and languages, along now it’s also upgraded with new laws and communities. Instead of these upgradations, we’re still lacking in somewhere, I have uplisted the issues I found in my considerations thought to be changed, these are:

No caste bars but still having a war

While living or working across the countries or states, some people still believe in not marrying outside of their castes, then no matter how much educated are they. And by any blunder, if we overrule our mind by going to inter-caste spouse, then we still have a community or relatives who will evermore ready to brainwash our or our family’s subconscious, and even if their influence doesn’t work, they’ll start spreading out rumors. We still come to hear about the news like honor killing, this won’t end until our mind gets reset for the sake of humankind.

Digital harassment

cyber bullying concept

Whether we know this or not, but trolling or offensive actions on social media or over the internet is coming into cyberbullying. Many people enjoy peeping into the other’s accounts and making assaulting comments or trolls without knowing that this could be might hurt their sentiments and because of this, they might harm themselves also. In the era of digital India, thousands of reports every day are registered based on cyberbullying. People’s humiliating comments on public pages or celebrities post, and on asking, they depict their old school reasoning thoughts that this might affect our culture. Now, this is the great thing to ask if the people who’re getting trolled are influencing our youth or they just doing their job, Or if our youth need a mindset to accept the changes and minding their own business.

Everything is limited to social media

People sharing smart phone content over the board

Since when India came up with the title called “Digital India”, our generation performing it more than it used to be, our independent youth don’t even know what’s going by their side while they are so much up with their boxes. They know people from other states or countries without even recognizing them if they really exist and on the other side, they don’t even know people living in their surroundings. Because of this on-box gaming, children only want to stick on their devices instead of going out and playing with their friends, they are more connected to virtual people than real ones. Same as whether it comes to dating, playing, or doing other pieces of stuff while getting more considerate to the virtual world, they’ve started disengaging from the present one. Can we fix this even today?

According to the saying, excess use of anything is harmful, and this is proving even today, whether it’s any digital platform, we should always be aware of everything that’s going around our surroundings. While living in the 21st century, holding on to the old school thoughts is still harmful as getting more digitized. There’s no harm to anything if it’s used in a balance. Only being called a liberal youth is not enough, we should be enlightened from our dealings as well, we should exercise ourselves to reconstruct our thoughtful state for the betterment of humankind.

Ram Mandir Inauguration: 5th August 2020, The most awaiting moment for Indians! Will this bring a warm fellowship between the citizens?

The very owned day for Indians has arrived, Ram Mandir Bhoomi Pujan in Ayodhya held on 5th August 2020 during the pandemic where everyone is scared of this Corona Virus, our respected prime minister Mr. Narendra Modi came forward and placed the foundation stone to the site followed by Indian rituals and Mantras. He lay 40kg silver brick which represented as a sacred and historic start of the temple as believed as birthplace of our Hindu god Lord Ram.
Here is the list about the preparation of bhhoomi pujan ceremony along following Covid protocols:

  • Lightening and decoration as it is a birthday of Lord Ram.
  • Sanitation and Maintaining Social distancing.
  • Foundation Brick.
  • Holistic preparation with Priests and Mantra Chanting.
  • Laddoos as Prashad.

Lightening & decoration as it is Diwali itself

The whole temple had been decorated with tons of flowers, varieties of flowers were brought from all around India as well as from Thailand to bring white orchids. The whole city was decorated and painted like a bride to be.

Sanitation and Maintaining Social distancing

All the COVID-19 protocols have been followed and the surroundings where prepared in the way like the guests that had been invited, their sittings was planned under the norms. All the temple and the surroundings were kept sanitized regularly concerning with safety purpose of the guests and the defense forces.

Foundation Brick

During the Bhoomi pujan, our honorable prime minister had laid the foundation of the temple with the 40kg silver brick which was donated by the chairman of Shri Ram Janmbhoomi Teerth Kshetra Trust, Mahant Nritya Gopal Das. However, the brick was removed after the ceremony of the Ram mandir’s Bhoomi pujan. It will be encashed and money will further be used in the construction of the Ram Mandir in Ayodhya.

Laddoos as Prashad

During the most awaited ceremony, 1.25 lakh desi ghee laddoos were prepared as Prashad, where 51000 laddoos were handed over to Ram Janmabhoomi Teerth Kshetra Trust during the occasion. The ceremony was conducted by the 11 scholars of Kashi. These Raghupati Laddoos was distributed all over the ceremony to the devotees.

The Ram Temple in Ayodhya represents the emotions of sacredness and unity as it believed as the birthplace to Lord Ram. Wait of the Centuries is finally over, hope the construction will complete soon without getting into any interruption now.