How to make your mind minding your business?

We’re so fucked up with ours lives these days that we don’t want to hold any crap from the next person. And by instance, if any even tiny and small dispute or issue occurs, then our overthinking overpowers the stress level at a higher stage. We’ll be smiling by responding to them, but then thinking of the worse scenarios on the other sides. Instead of talking straight to them, we start taking shitty advice from others, with whom has nothing to do with, but just the tip of gossip.

And the spark ignites by social media platform and the memes and quotes on “minding your own business and maintaining the distances from others as well”. 

Tips on minding your own business

Things I’ve learned so far are:

  • Do not share the things or the matter with others who do not have to do with the same.
  • If you do, they might share a few of their suggestions to resolve things out, but then the issue will be the new gossip factor to others and nothing else.
  • And also there might be the possibilities that to the person you’re sharing the things might organize their new mindset of the person you’re having the issues with, It’s in the positive or negative matter, depends on the seriousness and the context of the matter.
  • There may also have the probabilities that if you share the things, then they may create dispute with the more masala magic of their own the same person you have shared the words, if they hold any further grudges against you.

In the last, I’ll advise you to share your words wisely with whosoever sharing the same.

Social Covers: We All Have One In Our Trues

Happy New Year to my Chip Chop Family! I really wish the best for all of us towards 2021.
What I’m observing is, the world(including myself) is running, running into the crowd of getting better and earning more from one another, the more we’ve started holding on to the masks called “Social Covers”. Pardon please, I’m no one to make any statement on this, the world has already been through a lot in 2020, that we became more conscious of our health, both physical and mental, especially in lockdown, where human contact stated prohibited. This taught us to be independent and to enjoy our own company because we cannot rely even upon the ones who’d somewhere promised to be with us no matter what, and when this came to practice, some of them lose, some prove it to be in a better way, especially who never promised such thing.
Which comes up the solution is, promises and expectations sucks, even though if we think like if we love someone, those things generate automatically, but not in every scenario. Although I’m sharing my own experience of 2020, I accept, It was not up with the mark, but I learned a lot.
The First covering of this ‘Social Cover’ named was, Men are not supposed to get hurt and feel weak or cry even if something dishonest or miserable happens, and if he does so, he’ll be taken too weak to be sweet for society or the outer world that he should keep in perseverance.

The second was, how independent could women can get, but she should not be supposed to have a partner before marriage, she should not step out alone after 9, No matter how good she is in her office or business work or how much she is earning, but she needs to be brilliant in households,
If she lacks somewhere, there will be questions on her upbringing then.

So many questions, so many experiences, so much to learn more, but still a dilemma will continue…

The Unfolded Secret: Not The Revealing Session Though!!

Each of us has that on an unfolded secret, we wish and desire but can’t utter, though, not even to our close ones though, because of its intimidating tendency. It’s so intense that sometimes terrifies us, terrified of being judged if shared with anyone. Even some of us wouldn’t know if they’ve any but still finds something is lacking in their life and path of pleasure and peace even if they have/ had everything.

I hope you guys got what I want you to get, See you soon!!

I’ll not exaggerate the term “Secrets and Desires” because everyone has their own different perspective fluctuating. Specifically, in India, Even if you take the thought of sharing the thing with your trusting one, but still your mind might have to stop you once, why? Just for the sake of not becoming a subject of laughter to that one. I’m not sure, maybe everyone is not like I’m describing, but still, it’s just the fear.

If you feel like sharing this thing with the person you think will lead to the pathway to wanted, just dash off a shot, because we never know what we’re going to be missing!!

I hope you guys got what I want you to get, See you around!!

Live-in, India And Society

Coming with time, the ever thing which was consistent was the change, change in living patterns, change in understanding and mentality, and change towards independence. We’re seeing our country as Revolutionary India, a New leading country, etc. But some parts are still unavoidable of the society. Some realities are still harsh and rough to digest for our society like how they can even exist, for example, homosexual relationships, growing Transgenders, self-governing women, and the other one, “Live in Relationship” also called cohabitation.

What does a Live-in relationship mean?

A Live-in relationship is like a couple who’s living together without any legal bond between the parties, like a no-strings-attached relationship, a win-win situation for both to know each other better in person instead of spending some specific hours but sharing one’s lifestyle with one another. In simple words, it’s a walk-in or walk-out relationship, people prefer mostly before tying a knot and making it all allegedly disciplined. 

How does it look like to in a live-in relationship in India?

Moving-in together is considered as beyond pale in India. To be honest, the status of live-in India is not up to the mark, as it is still very new to our society and hence seen as a stigma.

This concept has entered India in the millennial age, so it’ll never be surprised if people of previous generations will show their back or may ask what the live-in relationship actually is?

Just forget society for some time, and just talk about our families. Do you really think our family gonna understand this if they found you want to hop into this relationship without marriage?

The answer will surely be NO, but still, the number of such relations is increasing gradually.

People are still holding on to the mentality that it harms the long-cherished values of institutions and cultures like marriage and family.  

Laws procured for Live-In relation in India

In India, the Domestic Violence Act 2005 included within its influence in live-in relationships under which a woman has with a man “a relationship in the nature of marriage” can go to court if abused. This relationship has seen none less than a marriage under the eye of the law, but without entering legally into it, and it is legal under the law but has to follow the norms.

The best part of staying in live-in is to stay honest and happy with your companion, or somehow if it’s not going well then you can end this on that point. Even though Bollywood has also portrayed this concept in their movies and showed the two different sides of societies, one where all are happily accepting the two’s relationship and encouraging them to make it permanent, and second where families of both the parties as opposing it.

We cannot say they have the narrow passage of their thinking because they had never seen such a thing previously in their times. But it differs from person to person, some are open to changes, some of them do block their head to understand or even hear the others for even once. 

The chaos has been scattered all over, but majorly into our minds, we cannot just directly put on the blame directly on society for being a non-understandable community, they will deffinetly show their opposite side to this changes and enhancement, But eventually things are still running on. According to their beliefs as marriage is the foundation of a family, if their beliefs get hurt in any manner, they’ll surely react to this. Though cohabitation is made legal in India, it is still a matter of taboo in many parts. Such couples have sometimes faced threats from the outward loop. Yet, thing demands the change in accordance with the time and hoping this might get better with time as well.

Young Adults, How they’re more entertaining with living alone?

More we’re becoming self-dependent, more we’re opting for modern life, and more we’re preferring living alone today, especially by young adults. According to statistics gathered by several research centers, young adults from around the world are focusing more on their careers and businesses, spend more time flirting on dating apps and prefer living solo instead of getting married, having children and forming a settled family.

Rather than compensating their preferences by tying the knot, they want to become financially strong and independent, young people want to secure their future and complete their academics which are taking more than usual time and delaying the time more and more. Young people especially in the age of 24+ to their last 40’s, preferring living solo and do not want to get bothered with other’s hindrances.

Entertaining solitude

LIving in solo doesn’t define one is not liking to be in social gatherings, but they enjoy their own space and time, they connect to people, party, or hang out with them and come to their nest another day. 

Not everyone chooses their Solo life

Everyone is just different from one another, so do as their preferences. Not everyone wishes to spend their life without having a partner. Choosing a single life could depend on one’s life situation what they’ve faced or what they think about others, but there are people too who come into the relationship, left their solo life because they think that life can be shared with them peacefully and beautifully.

Solo life is a definition of freedom

Living alone is another name of freedom in its own, young people choose to remain solo or if marry, then without any restriction or judgment. Living a solo life is simply becoming a preference for a growing soul and this should be celebrated rather than criticizing, as it really could give people more options like how they want to lead in life. In a future where neither being married or single is not regarded as negative.

We should learn to live on our own for sure because we know we have to leave alone if we’d have come alone. I also myself prefer a single solo life, having no stress, we need not impress anyone, we need not entertain an other’s opinion or have to take anyone’s shit, but at the having your partner by your side is not a that bad idea, but not now for sure, Maybe in my 30’s or later. Yes, this Idea of living alone is totally worthless according to our elders, and they’re right to somewhere, but living alone is a peaceful definition on its own.