More we’re becoming self-dependent, more we’re opting for modern life, and more we’re preferring living alone today, especially by young adults. According to statistics gathered by several research centers, young adults from around the world are focusing more on their careers and businesses, spend more time flirting on dating apps and prefer living solo instead of getting married, having children and forming a settled family.
Rather than compensating their preferences by tying the knot, they want to become financially strong and independent, young people want to secure their future and complete their academics which are taking more than usual time and delaying the time more and more. Young people especially in the age of 24+ to their last 40’s, preferring living solo and do not want to get bothered with other’s hindrances.
LIving in solo doesn’t define one is not liking to be in social gatherings, but they enjoy their own space and time, they connect to people, party, or hang out with them and come to their nest another day.
Not everyone chooses their Solo life
Everyone is just different from one another, so do as their preferences. Not everyone wishes to spend their life without having a partner. Choosing a single life could depend on one’s life situation what they’ve faced or what they think about others, but there are people too who come into the relationship, left their solo life because they think that life can be shared with them peacefully and beautifully.
Solo life is a definition of freedom
Living alone is another name of freedom in its own, young people choose to remain solo or if marry, then without any restriction or judgment. Living a solo life is simply becoming a preference for a growing soul and this should be celebrated rather than criticizing, as it really could give people more options like how they want to lead in life. In a future where neither being married or single is not regarded as negative.
We should learn to live on our own for sure because we know we have to leave alone if we’d have come alone. I also myself prefer a single solo life, having no stress, we need not impress anyone, we need not entertain an other’s opinion or have to take anyone’s shit, but at the having your partner by your side is not a that bad idea, but not now for sure, Maybe in my 30’s or later. Yes, this Idea of living alone is totally worthless according to our elders, and they’re right to somewhere, but living alone is a peaceful definition on its own.
The aging factor stereotype has been endured and has taken in numerous counts to the behavior that varies to one another. Let me make it simple for you, old age is also known as the second childhood as a stage of life where the lifecycle returned to its beginning. We’ll not step into the scientific reason to know why this happens, but to let you guys know that it feels like being in late adulthood. In this stage, the body sees many changes, physically as well mentally, the more wrinkles are shown in the skin, the more it starts lowering the functioning of the brain, which leads on to act opposite to their age.
Life after the 50s?
The thought sounds quite responsible and stressful because you’ll be in the middle of your life, though life is full of uncertainties we can take it as a rough guess. We never think about our parents who are already in this phase, rather we tend to complain all the time that they’re acting weird nowadays. They are not weird but the changes they face are. You should encourage them to follow their curiosities and their hobbies, what they’d wished once but couldn’t be reached, and if you’re already in your 50’s and reading this, forget if their any society exists and what will they say if you pursue your passion at this age, they’ve got a mouth, so they gonna say it anyway whether it’s good or not. Do what you’d ever dreamt of, whether it’s traveling, connecting to new people or communities, learning something new, or could be anything, also if you’re single and seeking a partner to live the life with, just give it a shot. You might be facing opposition from your family or society, but remember they’re gonna leave you alone one day anyway. So, do what your heart says!
One might feel like being a burden on their children because now it’s their time to serve their parents. Who feels their parents are a burden, some left them in an old-age home, some left them alone in their home, or some left them open over the road alone. We have seen movies like Baghwan, lead by Mr. Amitabh Bachchan, a drama film depicting the harsh reality of today, where one parent can raise their 4 children together but when their parents step into old age, then their children set such a cruel arrangement that they make their parent’s hearts bleed.
It’s just an example of a drama movie, but a couple of months earlier, as the case came into the rise when the son of an old lady of ’70s left her alone on the train and didn’t come. The woman came into the eyes when people noticed that the lady hadn’t moved from her seat for 2 days in a row and had nothing in hand, no food, no money, no nothing, then the local police took her to the nearby old age home and made the arrangements for her stay. My point is to show the cruelty of the man who left her mother who’d taken him in her womb for 9 months straight and to heat up the fested(toxic) mentality of the people towards their helpless and obligate parents who want nothing but their children’s love and care.
Relive your glory days
Never think of old age as an age of being left helpless, this is almost an age where you’ve achieved almost everything you thought once in your life, you are almost free from every responsibility, and it’s now time to revive those adulthood days whether with your partner or by enjoying your own company. Consider this as your glorifying time, re-enhance your vibes and soul, bring the new in you. Be limitless and change the definition for all boundaries of aged hypocrites.
These baffled emotions are very common and often to people when they step into mid of their teens or 20’s. We mostly endure being confused about whether this confusion is about love, friendship, college, business, etc. almost about everything. I’m one of them, I won’t say like I’m an always happy-go kinda person. But like most of us, I too got failed in finding my “The only one”, Sounds silly? Yeah of course it does, duhhh… !!
But Honestly not regretting it :)…
Ya, I admit that become sad while scrolling on over one of the social media handle’s feed, when I see couples wandering the world while wrapping hands to one another, Haha….. I know it’s foolish, and also whatever we’re seeing online is not actually real, but it’s all my mood swings, what I thought in just a second after. Hehe…. I have always been a puffed child since my childhood, I called it “my family’s love is shown by my body”, I love food, I really do, But while growing up, seeing, yes looks really do matter, and how much I’m trying hard to lose fat but my obsession for trying new food, is just not letting me go, was the time I felt its the time to get back on track now. Being always dumped by foolish reasons for not loving back was certainly uncountable.
Is this Post for seeking any sympathy?? It’s a BIG NO NO….
I love myself, and also understand the concept of mindful eating, loving weight lifting now, started jogging everyday, feeling fitter and motivated than ever before…
Not only by friends and outsiders, but even my own family members also used to make me remember almost all the time, like how fat I’m, Uhh, the struggle is really very real “Because kehte hain na, patli ho jaao nahi toh shaadi nahi hogi, ya acha pati nhi milega!!”
Like each and every phrase, the phase of a woman’s life has been started from finding a decent and ideal husband. Why a woman can’t think of settling on her feet without thinking of getting married and having her own separate family? Why is a woman not considered as part of her own family anymore where she born, when her 20’s begins? I completely understand the need of having a partner at a certain age when you can grow together, and starts a new life? But what If one fails in finding one, whether it’s any of the reason, their pattern of thinking and understanding, one’s outer looks, one’s religion or caste differences, one’s, etc. Isn’t a woman alone capable of taking her career to heights?
I’m really not able to get fit into this society where “Log kya sochenge” is still matters! Lol… I think sometimes whether people are so idle to talk shit about others without thinking about their own? Ya, I too judge people sometimes, but also besides knowing that it’s not my business to do anything with!!
How I’m keeping myself motivated to move on and focus?
I usually do nothing but keeping myself busy, whether with work or thinking about my blogging skills to improve in more and also with household stuff sometimes. Times come in between while jogging or my walks, where my thinking starts. I’m a really very big fan of Mr. Neelesh Mishra, a fan of his writings actually, I used to listen to them almost on daily basis. They are very soothing and takes you into your own imaginary world, where sometimes you will learn to deal with emotions or sometimes understand the phases life shows us.
Things I’ve learned so far is, Everyone has their own sets of problems, No one can compare their lives to other, everyone has their own shit to deal with, and living in their own visionary world. Sharing my thoughts with you has no intention behind but to tell to y’all that it’s all indoors us, the complications and perplexes running within, are all common. Share them to only those whom you think they’re only trustworthy, or better to not share instead of becoming a subject of anyone’s laughter.
The tide will always be waving within till you know how to deal with! Don’t let the tide be the tornado! Take Care!
Being a human is a beautiful gift given to us by God to do the good deeds for others that we call it humanity or humankind. But the game has flipped now, they find it no big deal on hurting the mum innocent animals just for the sake of their pleasure, for so-called business or for sometimes take out their frustration on them thinking like they don’t feel anything which is their one of the biggest misinterpretation. Their delusion of thinking them superior is making them the dumbest and sinister throughout life.
Is our dairy food the product of rape?
Here in India, We consider cows as “Mother” we used to worship, but what do you think they get the respect with what a mother should be treated with? NO, Cows and other farm female animals endure being raped repeatedly, and their babies are taken away from them, either some got killed or rest got to be treated as same as their mothers. When humans are sexually or forcibly violated, we call it “rape” but on a similar side when female animals are violated sexually, we call it “artificial insemination ”, which comes into the product we used to enjoy on a regular basis, right! Bulls are stimulated to ejaculate into the artificial private containers, and they undergo the process call electroejaculation. For more you can read here..
Pregnant elephant and cow fed with firecrackers?
The inhuman’s deeds haven’t gone so far yet, being human, we have taken other living life so ordinary that we don’t even find it terrifying on hurting them. Another case we came to hear with only a few days of news headlines and criticism, when the hungry pregnant elephant fed with the firecrackers by Kerala people, as it was subject to their enjoyment of seeing a life-carrying creature with immense pain that she couldn’t tolerate that and died. Another when mother like “cow” being worshiped, was fed with firecrackers stuffed in the wheat dough. Her jaw blown off, we couldn’t even imagine the pain she had gone through, so inhuman, so shameful!!
Shooting seals, wolves, snakes, and others for their skin?
What if someone shoots you and peel off your skin to make goods and earn profit from it? Sounds crazy, right.
It is a million-dollar industry to slaughter animals and uses their skin to make shoes, jackets, belts, etc.
Now some of you might be thinking that these companies need to stop but the main problem is they lie within ourselves.
We need a leather jacket or other products that’s why there is so much demand in the market and that’s why these industries evolving day by day.
The solution is to prohibit utilizing the animal product so that they won’t be in demand and gradually there will be a downfall in the commerce of this industry and that’s how we can save animals from getting slaughtered.
Bullfighting: The death show?
Another act of enjoying the cruelty of the ruthless people, relishing the bullfighting with hoots, calling it a tradition of their culture, a culture where year, thousands of bulls are barbarically slaughtered in bullrings around the world. Bulls today are specially bred for bullfighting. They are nurtured on hundreds of registered bull ranches located in various parts of Mexico. Whereas Bulls aren’t the only victims in bullfights. Horses are too used to run with the bulls in circles can quickly become exhausted. They can be seriously killed by rushing the bulls trying to protect themselves with the bulls.
More than 5000 dogs are killed during this dog festival. First dogs are put into the cage and then cooked alive or slaughter, just for the sake of Thanksgiving.
We can’t cry over the slaughter of dogs and on the other hand, enjoying the beef, chicken, or any other meat products.
Be the change you want to see in the world and the change starts from your plate by simply not putting the non-veg into your platter.
Laws against harming animals?
Are the laws are strict enough to save the animals? The major loophole under the PCA (Prevention of Cruelty to Animals) Act is if any kind of offense or crime has been done by one, will be imposed with the fine or compensation of amount ranges from Rs. 10 and Rs. 50, the fine range would depend upon the seriousness of the crime.
What are the laws?
Under Section 11 and 12 of the PCA Act are cognizable but the sentence of imprisonment is very low that is imprisonment of 3 months and punishment under Section 38 of the Act is non-cognizable which means the person cannot be arrested without a warrant. Also, under the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals Act, 1956, there is a provision for the requirement of setting up of a Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (SPCA) in every state but leaving a few states there is no such society in the rest of the country.
What steps are yet to be taken?
All the Sections under the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals Act should be amended strictly, improvisations are required in the provision of fine and compensation amount and period of imprisonment. Being civilized people of our society, we should be aware of how to treat innocent animals with kindness as it is our duty to be a human and be like one.
Another term of this can be rape, sexual harassment, sexual violence, or non-consensual forcement of one to another, and are considered as a serious crime solely as served with various judicial charges. From a recent annual report of the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB), 33,356 rape cases are reported across India, about 92 a day. Out of these, 31,320 were committed by someone known to the victim (93.9% of the cases). India has been designated as one having the highest rape rate percentage from any other.
Are the women only victims of it?
The answer is truly a big NO. As per the recent percentage of the reported cases, crime against the men( or boys) is having a higher rate than women(or girls). Many NGOs people visit colleges, schools, institutions, or committees of urban and rural areas both to teach students and people about the difference between Good touch and Bad touch. They more focus on girls only, but being mentor they should let the people understand in the majority that the wrong can happen with any of them, but then they have to recognize the touch and if you find any kind of abuse or bad touch, then should directly tell to their teacher or parents or can share to who they trust to find the solution and take the serious action against the accused.
In the maximum cases, men and boys are the victims are scared of the accuser or if not then think that they might not be trusted by anyone because they are male, and the male is supposed to be strong, and things like bad touch can never happen to them. But it’s the harsh reality today that men get abused and they find it hard to get out of their condition in which they presently are.
It has been seen that the perpetrators choose the victim’s weaknesses as to maintain the secrecy of the assault or by making them believe that they will not be believed and might get judged or may become subject of laughter. But then you need to stand out loud to prove that accuser wrong and let that person be punished for his crime.
Support the Survivors
If something like this happened to you, then you should know that you are not alone, but your people and the law got your back. The 1in6 helpline is available if any men in your known are seeking immediate help against the assault, NGOs like Action Aid India, the Majlis, and the Azad foundation are always available to listen and help you up.
Being sexually assaulted has nothing to do with your current or future sexual orientation. Your sexuality has no more to do with being raped than being robbed. There’s no means of being quiet but to fight back to attain your freedom and self-confidence. Think and shout!