We have heard many times since childhood what people will say? Whether this is about anything, about bragging things, their hypocritical social or religious values, etc. But from the very first it starts from our beloved homes “What people will say if a girl (or woman of the house) will…?” The kind of restrictions stated straight to girls or women which has to be obeyed by them based on society’s hypothetical beliefs are:
If want to wear whatever she wants:
Does the length of the dress of a woman or a girl describe her character? The answer is absolute ‘No’. Respect for women must independent of the types of clothes she’s wearing.
If she put on or lose the weight:
The phrases like ‘loose weight, unless no one will marry you’, ‘you’re so skinny, put on some skin because you won’t be able to handle pregnancy after marriage’, etc. Why everything is connected to their marriages and not what they want to be.
If she steps out after 11 pm :
If a girl or a woman is out even it is 11 pm, then some of us making misinterpretation towards her by calling characterless, thinking she must be hanging around with someone else or she’s out of the values, but no one thinks she’s might be out because of her work.
If she’s 30 and still doesn’t want to get married:
Being Indian, no matter how good you are at your work, everyone will start suggesting you or your family find a good house for her just when she enters her 24. And eventually, she’s 30 and still single, doesn’t want to get married yet because you want to focus on your career, then “What people will say that you’re not married yet, what you will do of this money if you don’t have a family?”
If she put on red dark lipstick:
‘She’s running out of the hands for sure, just look at her dark makeup!’. Yet another statement is given according to the kind of make-up she is wearing whether if she’s traditional saree. This directly stares people want a thing to raise it into an issue.
If she wants to raise your voice against the crime:
‘Keep shut and silent! You’re girl( or woman), you should not be indulged in any kind of protests or raise your voice because it doesn’t look nice if a girl does that, and going forward, you also have to get married or you have a family, you just take care of your house. ’
If she wants to be a single parent:
‘ What people will say if you raise your child as a single parent?’, ‘You cannot raise your child on your own, you need a man, you’re not advised to get divorced, think about your child’, One question raises here why can’t a woman do things by her own if she can give birth by bearing all the pain alone?
If she wants to sit the way she likes:
‘It doesn’t look nice if you sit by opening your legs wide, sit like a girl (or a woman)’, ‘ What people will say, look she sits like a boy (or man), don’t know if she has given the values or not’. Does the sitting posture define the type and the culture in which we brought up?
It’s high time to the mindset changes, a girl or a woman’s respect should not be connected to attire or professional she chooses for herself. High times for girls to confront the obstacles controlling them to spread their wings and fly.